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It's been long time coming.
Waited to long but this January I am planning to apply for 50/50 shared care for my daughter.
I have applied for mediation year ago but my ex was unable to attend unless I pay the fee.I said no.I got c100 from but I didn't apply to the court as I knew she will use my daughter as play card.
I meet my ex in 2010.She had already 8 months old daughter.In 2012 my daughter was born.We split up in 2014.Since 2014 I had both of my daughters 1-2 nights a week.As for the oldest one dad never was in the picture so I was happy to fulfill dad's role.In 2018 my ex decided that the oldest one should meet her dad.She arranged meeting but unfortunately he was involved very short period in her life and disappear again with no trace.My ex didn't involved me in decision making and pushed me away from being dad as she was hoping her biological dad will be there.I continued to have my daughter 1-2 nights a week.In October 2019 I decided to resign from full time job and only have 3 jobs as bank working on nights with kids in mental health hospital.This so I can spend every weekend with my daughter,sometimes 3 nights a week where I pick her up from school and drop her back to school on Monday.
I have explained to my ex that after 3 months I will apply for 50/50 but she didn't take me seriously.I know I will have to go back to mediation and that is not a problem.Please let me know your opinion,what obstacles I can hit?
To finish story I would like to point out that I live on my own single,where my daughter has her own bedroom.I send emails to school and pay for stuff that dad's do.In 2019 I was told by my daughter that my ex has now partner and after 2 months he started living with them.I know they are kids and there story sometimes can be exaggerated but this looks very confusing for booth kids.To finish story I would like to mentioned my oldest daughter on application as well.Please let me know what you think
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but unless your ex agrees you will only be able to get access to your biological daughter only.
Its unlikely you will get 50-50 shared care order. you should get every other weekend , half the holidays and supper and play or an overnight stay during the week. this will be as long is there are no safeguarding issues.
What is your ex allowing you contact wise at moment. is she open to you seeing both girls and having contact with both? do you think she will agree to 50-50 shared care order?
Definitely do go for pick up from school Friday drop off to school Monday for your daughter on your application ( 3 nights) every other weekend
1 night pick up from school drop off to school. if u want 2 nights during week you might have to drop daughter back off on sunday 5pm rather than to school
Thank you for response.I just find it difficult to come to agreement with my ex.Could you please explain why it will be difficult for me to get 50/50? Will court not decide in best o interest of the child?
What is she willing to offer you at the moment. some ex partners offer no contact at all, some supervised and others just want to reach agreement but its rarely 50-50 as in 14 nights each
Hi.Can you please explain where this comes from its rarely 50/50 as its 14 nights a month.Is this based on your experience,are you jugde? I just don't get it.Yes I want to spend 14 nights with my daughter or even more and fulfil my duty as dad.This is simple.As far I am aware it's not up to parents to just to make that decision and I know few friends they got 50/50.If I will start and not believe in my goals what's the point.
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