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My thoughts 1 week 3 days ago #88011

Last november 21st 3.56 pm was the last time i spoke to my child i had a really good chat with child about just normal stuff how my childs day had been at school and said love you and child said love you too .and now today nearly one year since i seen my child all i want is it all to go away and for me and child to not have to feel that at any moment to feel that mum stops us seeing each other since child was born ten years Ago its been stop start but il keep fighting i remember my child saying will you always see me dad and i said yes i will no matter what and the fact that me and child are not together again breaks my heart but its not just that i know child will be missing me so much but cannot show any love and child cant mention my name and that is so so sad because no matter what i would never ever stop a child from seeing a parent its wrong on so many levels i just hope people who turn there children against the none resident parent one day get punished because the law needs to change in other countrys its picked up on and punishment is handed out but still in the uk and other countrys mothers play the system and get away with it .and cafcass are ment to be there to protect and give you a fair chance well ive not been treated fair it seems like alot of cafcass officers believe everyword mothers say and judge you and are not treating mothers n fathers equally my point to this post is the law needs to change to give none resident parents a fair chance and be treated with respect because i and am sure loads of other dads have been treated terrible . God bless every father and i pray to god that you all see you kids soon and hope the law changes .
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My thoughts 1 week 3 days ago #88013

I can't possibly imagine how you feel. I see my children for 2 hours a week - that's 104 hours a year! Less than 5 days worth. But to not see them at all would crush me - every week we get to reassure each other, show our love for each other, make things better for each other. For all of us, it's heartbreaking. But for you, it's beyond imagining. You're an inspiration for staying so strong, still fighting for what's right, still fighting for your child.
I don't have words to say that could possibly come close to making things better for you, for your little one. I hope some of the mothers out there realise just how much it hurts by keeping children away from their dads, that they can put their own feelings to one side and just do the right thing. I still don't understand what they gain from their actions. How they can make any action that hurts their own children is beyond me - they're parents too. It's their job to protect their children from all kinds of harm, emotional and physical.
I hope one day you get justice!
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My thoughts 1 week 3 days ago #88014

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I can't possibly imagine how you feel. I see my children for 2 hours a week - that's 104 hours a year! Less than 5 days worth. But to not see them at all would crush me - every week we get to reassure each other, show our love for each other, make things better for each other. For all of us, it's heartbreaking. But for you, it's beyond imagining. You're an inspiration for staying so strong, still fighting for what's right, still fighting for your child.
I don't have words to say that could possibly come close to making things better for you, for your little one. I hope some of the mothers out there realise just how much it hurts by keeping children away from their dads, that they can put their own feelings to one side and just do the right thing. I still don't understand what they gain from their actions. How they can make any action that hurts their own children is beyond me - they're parents too. It's their job to protect their children from all kinds of harm, emotional and physical.
I hope one day you get justice!
i just think of when my child is older they will find the truth out and know what mom did was digusting and more so put us both thru hell and my wife too as it effects us both thanks for message and support
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My thoughts 1 week 3 days ago #88017

Hi,

My little girl is 10 years old and we are each others worlds, despite me often shouting at her to get off her ipad or eat her peas. We bonded easily and totally and have been apart very little over years until my alcoholic wife took her and my 6 year old boy away recently to stay at her parents.

I'm in pain as only people on this site could imagine, however things feel new and raw for me at the moment and I cannot imagine how you must feel 12 months on dealing with the hurt. I wish I could offer you some words that might ease your pain or suggest something you might do but in reality, there isn't anything any of us can say to each other to actually help.

We are all on the first leg of a horrific journey that will test and hurt each one of us until we come out the other side and our children reach an age that they decide who they ultimately stay with and not the person who gave birth to them - That is simply biology and not a right to determine contact or residency. If it wasn't for my 2 wonderful children, I would have gone insane over the last few years, as we all endured this living nightmare with the alcoholic excuse for a wife and mother.

The only reason I don't end things here and now is them and the knowledge that in a few years, they will have a voice and decide that living with dad is possible despite what mummy screams at them. We must make sure we all do the same, stay strong and don't give up because I'm certain all those wonderful mummy's would paint a very bleak picture of the selfish dad who didn't care.

None of us are rational or thinking clearly because we are all missing our kids, but I imagine very few of us are cruel or vengeful enough to keep a dad in pain away from his baby girl. Please be assured we feel your pain and just keep going man because that little girl needs you.
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My thoughts 1 week 2 days ago #88019

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Hi,

My little girl is 10 years old and we are each others worlds, despite me often shouting at her to get off her ipad or eat her peas. We bonded easily and totally and have been apart very little over years until my alcoholic wife took her and my 6 year old boy away recently to stay at her parents.

I'm in pain as only people on this site could imagine, however things feel new and raw for me at the moment and I cannot imagine how you must feel 12 months on dealing with the hurt. I wish I could offer you some words that might ease your pain or suggest something you might do but in reality, there isn't anything any of us can say to each other to actually help.

We are all on the first leg of a horrific journey that will test and hurt each one of us until we come out the other side and our children reach an age that they decide who they ultimately stay with and not the person who gave birth to them - That is simply biology and not a right to determine contact or residency. If it wasn't for my 2 wonderful children, I would have gone insane over the last few years, as we all endured this living nightmare with the alcoholic excuse for a wife and mother.

The only reason I don't end things here and now is them and the knowledge that in a few years, they will have a voice and decide that living with dad is possible despite what mummy screams at them. We must make sure we all do the same, stay strong and don't give up because I'm certain all those wonderful mummy's would paint a very bleak picture of the selfish dad who didn't care.

None of us are rational or thinking clearly because we are all missing our kids, but I imagine very few of us are cruel or vengeful enough to keep a dad in pain away from his baby girl. Please be assured we feel your pain and just keep going man because that little girl needs you.
thanks mate for sharing that and thanks for your support i like all the dads will never give up my child is the reason im alive along with my supporting strong wife
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