[Solved] 3 years plus & still fighting

So sorry to hear. When was the last time he saw the child ?

she said july 16 😉

Hey lolly, can't believe it's still going on! When are the psychological reports due? Wishing you both the best of luck, it's been going on far too long!

Oh my goodness I'm so sorry this is still not resolved. It doesn't fill me with hope I have to say. He has a fact finding soon and hopefully a final hearing soon after. A contact order just won't work, she will breach it from day 1, residency is his only hope. He's almost at four years now too, not seen his children since March 2016, no contact at all, not even allowed to send birthday cards. The whole family court system is flawed and needs investigation.

Hey Harli

I'm not sticking up for the courts in respect of yours, lolly's and some other of our members cases at all, but in the main, the courts work well for the most part. My problem with the system is when cases like yours become intractable and are allowed to continue for so long without satisfactory resolution for the children.

Wishing you both the best going forward.

I known we are extreme cases Yoda and I'm sure the family courts work perfectly well for some people but sadly not in his case. I'm just tired of it dragging on and getting nowhere that's all 🙂

Totally agree with you. When things get like this - you're completely at the mercy of the individual judges and to some extent Cafcass. Even with expensive legal help, the outcomes are often not much different. There are some wonderful judges out there who will take control and push these difficult cases forward, but unfortunately they are few and far between.

Psychologist reports done but Cafcass Guardian had further questions as the report was a little wishy-washy. Psychologist did report that Mother and her parent’s negative attitude is affecting child, acknowledged that Mother is not supporting contact nor is she motivated to make contact happen. Psychologist recommended child stay with Mother but did acknowledge that child will be affected if he does not see Dad. Remarkably the Psychologist didn’t find anything wrong with mother which just goes to show how she can fool even the professionals. The delay is just trying to get everyone to court for a 2-day hearing.

Child has moved school now (High School) this was done without consultation and Mother has tried to block Dad from receiving any information from the School. She got her lawyer to send a letter to school (copying Dad in) stating that they may apply for a specific issues order to ban Dad from school if he turns up to exercise his right as per the Court Order and to inform school that Mother does not want Dad to be given any info about child. Thankfully school have ignored the letter and given Dad all the info.

I feel you frustration, although I have an ex who is determined to make things hard and difficult. Altering hours, refusing to be reasonable with contact . I get2 hours a month with no chance of this improving and I am not sure how I can get any better contact. I emailed my eldest for a bit but then I got replies clearly written by my ex.

So I stopped and then get accused of not caring. The kids have never call me I am left confused

Hi there MrNHS

It might be better if you start a new thread telling us a little about your situation and we will do what we can to offer advice and support.

Hi Lollyrus

I can only echo Yodas words, you have been failed thus far and through no fault of your own, cases like yours and Harlis need strong and committed handling.

I can't understand how the Psychologist can pinpoint the alienation and bad behaviour on the mothers side and yet not draw the proper conclusion from it! The mothers implacable hostility and the damage she is doing to the child has to have a root cause, which is more than likely a personality disorder, this should have been put forward... More sitting on the fence!

All the best