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Well I don't think that could of gone any better, just got back from seeing my Daughter in the Contact centre for the second time in 10 months and it was amazing.
On arrival I went straight to the play room and chatted with the other parents, my ex turned up said goodbye to my Daughter at the door then the CC staff brought her over to me, My girl cried her eyes out for about 1 min whilst I cuddled her and chatted to her then she was fine throughout the session it was EPIC! π
That bond we had 10 months ago hasn't diminished in the slightest we played, chatted, I fed and watered her it was amazing she such a chilled out pleasant happy kid all I can see is me in her π
I didn't think much about the CC staff this week they were watching me like a [censored] hawk, you can tell my ex has made me out to be the worlds worst kitten killer of a Dad their eyes were burning into the back of my head and one of them physically grabbed me to stop me leaving before my ex had drove out the carpark I was about to knock her clean out before I realised who it was grabbing me from behind, unbelievable!
I'm so pleased I get to see my Girl on my own from now on without my EX been in the same room I couldn't enjoy it last time with her watching my every move, I really feel like I've not lost that bond with my Girl she kept putting her hands out for me to pick her up, she's so clever for a 11 month year old absolutely loves trains cars train tracks and garages just like I did when I was a kid π
The cherry on top was when my EX came to pick her up My Girl wouldn't let go of me and proper kicked off screaming and shouting and crying, 10x worse than she did when she was left with me initially it was ACE lol π
Thanks for everyones advice It all went out the window as soon as I seen her but it couldnt of gone any better can't wait for the next session now π
Slim π
brilliant Mr Slim, chuffed for you. Your positivity in the face of the [censored] you have endured is an inspiration to us all.
Bumbum, you will get there and this site will help you that's for sure. If it provides any further hope, I 1st visited this site 5 months ago and was similarly bricking it ahead of court. Its only natural as there is so much at stake. My son 1 week tonight will be sitting by my side for his 1st overnight stay with me since separating. I cannot wait. I could barely sleep last night for thinking about it. God knows what ill be like on Friday next week.
just go from a to b as they say. Give yourself a pat on the back as you negotiate each small step along the way. Be prepared for an excruciatingly slow process and you will get there like we all do in the end...
I don't think I could go through them 9 months again, I swear that was the worst [censored] of my life, I'm not actually bitter at my ex I'm more bitter at caftwats as they are the whole reason why I never seen my daughter for so long.
On the plus side I think I'm a better person for it, I've kicked a 20 year cannabis habit, I've really enjoyed the court process and standing up there fighting for my Girl it's all being worth it when I seen my Girl today she is just adorable but I defo couldn't do it again.
I've lived out my dream of Dj'ing in Ibiza this summer I've played all over europe and america over the past 4 years but Ibiza was the one for sure, I don't know what I would of done if it wasn't for that Island and music this summer I really did hit the brick wall a few times especially when the order had been made and she ignored it.
I'm also glad I found this site I've met some awesome people for sure and I can't thank them enough for the support and guidance it's been unreal, Although I try and help others than asking for help my self it's helped me giving advice to other dads who are in a worse situation than me I've had it easy compared to some.
For the first time in my life I am very proud of what I have achieved looking at my Girl today made me realise what I have done for her, don't get me wrong I've always done very well in life but it's never really mean't anything to me I've always felt like I've got to prove something to someone and never really felt like I had.
I'm by nowhere finished as this is just the start of making sure I get decent contact with my Girl but thank god I am seeing her now the past 9 months have been unbearable it's going to take me a while to get over it I've done nothing but sleep!
Slim π
So pleased for you Slim, you know don't know you from Adam as they say, but your posts keep me going, when i'm down I think well Slim got there, just printed out C100 and C1 get them signed off by mediation on Monday then put into court on 13th, ive told wife she has until then to talk and draw up an agreement, would not have got this far without yours and others support, know now I have strength to get there for my boy. π π π
Yeah man I couldn't of done it without this site for sure I was close to ending it all if I'm honest, This site has literally saved my life I had no one else no family or friends behind me they simply didn't understand, It breaks my heart when I see poor dads completely at a loss as what to do there is nothing for us dads no support nothing the other dad sites are either a bunch of nut jobs or just out to tout for McKenzie friend work ect It's the best feeling ever helping other people out.
Cheers me' duck lol π
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