[Solved] 11 week no access, no xmas , birthday nothing

You should get your first hearing date 4-6 weeks after you have submitted your application, at the directions hearing they won't want to see any evidence ect that comes way down the line, It may be a good idea to do a position statement outlining what exactly you want 🙂

ok , any ti on how to word it ? what not to say ?
thanks again x

The courts won't ask for a position statement probs until the final hearing but if you do one it will get it straight in your head exactly what you are asking for and it will show the court you mean business, basically keep it completely child focused no slagging the ex off start off with a brief history, how contact was progressing before contact was stopped and when contact was stopped, the efforts you made to come to an arrangement with the ex for the kids and that you tried mediation then outline what contact you are seeking, interim contact and what contact you would like in the long run keeping in mind the childs needs.

at the end slip in a little bit about why personally you think the kids will benefit having you in their lives and basically what you would like the court to order, keep it really brief and to the point as the judges will skin through it and hand it in to the usher when you arrive at court before the hearing 🙂

ok , so that is a written statement that i don tt have to stand up and speak ? and that is to be ready for the final haering ? i will start it now and thanks again .
the first heraing is what i am most scared about as i dont feel i have any thing ready ? what do i need in terms ov doumentation or what i need to say or whateve is needed ?
thamks mate
keepsmillin x

ok , so that is a written statement that i don tt have to stand up and speak ? and that is to be ready for the final haering ? i will start it now and thanks again .
the first heraing is what i am most scared about as i dont feel i have any thing ready ? what do i need in terms ov doumentation or what i need to say or whateve is needed ?
thamks mate
keepsmillin x

Hi Mate,

Don't panic about the first hearing, it will be fine, just keep calm and collected with your daughter in your mind. Court isn't as bad as you would think and when you walk out of the first hearing you will feel much better about things.

When I first started through court I was a lip, but my ex took a solicitor with her, he did all the talking for her and tried to run the pace of the hearing, it annoyed me but I didn't allow that to show, I just took a deep breath and then pulled it back a few steps to where I wanted it to be, remember you have arranged the hearing so you should try to miantain some level of pace.

GTTS

hi gtts , how yoiu keeping , thanks again , could you please tell me what i need for the first hearing ?
i have done a positin statement for later on , but need to no whazt to expect in the first hearing ? what i need ?
thanks again mate and all who help me
keepsmillin x

From my experience, you won't need too much, just a brief statement of what has happened along the way to mean you have ended up in court, and then what you would like the outcome to be, the judge may ask you a few further questions to enable a good understanding of what has happened. They will then probably address your ex and get her side of things, then maybe ask either of you questions relating to what ever either of you has said.

That's why I say keep things factual, rather than oppinion, if you get asked to explain a fact it's easy to do, you have the evidence and prepaired details in front of you, but if you get asked to explain a feeling or oppiinion it's easy to get flustered, especially if the oppinion is a negative one against your ex and the judge doesn't take kindly too it.

When I went, I took small cards with what I wanted to say on them, they were easy to read and work through without getting confused, once I had gone through them all it was all pretty much covered.

I was awarded interim contact in the first hearing even though I hadn't asked for it but I was lucky, my ex only stopped contact due to me not telling her where we were going when I had my son, the judge who saw my case initially was excellent and didn't like what she was doing so actually gave her a good dressing down, she was using oppinions and feelings and it went against her.

The other thing I would say is that if you get a good judge in the first hearing request there and then that the judge sees the case through till the end if at all possible as you will then know who you are seeing and it will not only be less daunting each time but the judge will know a certain amount about the case.

GTTS