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I can't quite believe it's been 1 whole year since I joined Dad info it honestly feels like 10! lol π
It sends a shiver down my spine when I look back at what a mess I was 1 year ago, it has without a doubt been the worst year of my life so far but it was worth it to get what my daughter deserves π
I am so pleased I went through the courts it was stress but I'd rather it be the courts than having to pander to my ex's every whim just to keep contact with my daughter and step daughter,
I honestly wish I knew then what I know now I would of chilled out a bit but being stopped from seeing your flesh and blood is worse than someone dying in my opinion, not seeing the girls for nearly 10 months was almost unbearable at some points thank the lord I had Dad info and my music π
Although I am proud at what I have achieved fighting through the court system on my own and actually quite enjoying the actual court appearances I did make a few mistakes, looking back I wish I had of dealt with cafcass differently I would of tried to open the lines of communication with the ex sooner, I have learned how not to react to abuse from the ex I let it get to me too much before.
People say to me oh it must of been worth it now you are seeing your girl but that whole experience was that much [censored] on earth I can't say it was worth it as I basically missed out on my daughters first year of life and I can't bring myself to forgive the ex and it can never be undone but I will forget for the sake of my daughter.
For the father in the family courts it is a nightmare but as long as you tick all the boxes jump through all the hoops do everything that is requested of you by the court, keep calm throughout, treat it like a game of chess, don't slag the ex off you will be fine lol
At the end of the day if you're just a loving father that will come shining through in court it's not a case of IF you see your little one but WHEN just just have to play the game to get what your child deserves.
It's been nearly 3 months since the final hearing and I'm still not fully over it all although life is defo a million times better than it was a year ago trust me π
Nice post Slim - encouraging for others, but definitely good for you to look back how far you and your daughters have come π
Your daughter is lucky to have such an amazing dad!
Cheers, Slim π
Time flies, How things have changed for you. You've inspired lots of Dads on here Slim, good for you π
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