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My ex and I split 5 years ago, we have a Son together who is now 7'n'half. She was living with another guy with whom she has a daughter (2 yrs old), she has now split with him and is now staying herself with the 2 kids. She has a sister who also stays with her as her work is just across the road. Both her and her sister are hairdressers. We have an agreement whereby I always have my Son stay with me from a Friday until 6-7pm on a Sunday (Unless he has a Party or going to a friends of a week-end), I also have him for School holidays. I would safely say I have him around 130-140 nights per year. She always said that as I have Charlie @ week-ends, and always do lots with him, buy him whatever he is needing. She was always happy for her to claim the Tax Credits/Child benefit. However now she has split with her daughters father, she is now asking me for Money. Now I honestly don't have a problem with this, but as she is a hairdresser, the money she can earn is way more than is declared for Tax Credits(Working & Child), I just want it to be fair. I started employment 14th March 2011 after long-term ill health. I work 35hrs @ £7.50p/hr - Net wage is £227 per Week.
Can someone tell me how I should approach this. Do I ask her to tell me exactly how much money she has coming in (Does her Sister give her money). I read that maintenance should reflect both households, so the Child is not going from "Auld Claithes & Porridge" to "Prada Handbags & Caviar". I currently live with my Parents, and truly, genuinely fear being offered council accommodation as I realistically won't be able to afford it. I also want to do right by my Son.
Any comments on this would be really appreciated. I've tried to explain the situation, but can give any further information.
Yours in anticipation
G
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