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My sole surname appears on my son’s birth certificate of our child and we were unmarried - me and my partner split up and although she hasn’t got a partner she now wants the surname changed to a double barrelled one - hers and mine, she had IVF separately without my knowledge and has informed me she is now expecting another child via an anonymous donor - what a mess,
Has anyone been through the name change and is it likely that she will be able to change the name (now having issued court proceedings ?)
idd like our child to remain with my name to be able to decide when he comes of age - not it be forced on him now by the mother. I also sincerely feel my identity and relationship with our son has been eroded as a result of her other actions to withhold day access and prevent overnight access, which in the court system despite me probably going to get it eventially with a cost of circa 30k takes an absolute age (min 6-12 months) to get a decision.
Any help appreciated - im sure im not alone
How old is your child and how long were you a part of your childs life before you split / lost contact?
your ex cannot change your childs legal name without your authorisation........however she can call your child whatever she wants....its called "known as" and that is something you cannot control or stop on your own but ask your ex not to do this for your childs future.
the courts can stop your ex from having your child known as any other name.....in my case they have done just that! as i proved my ex was trying to remove me from my childs memory and by having my child "known by" any other name she was going to be successful in doing so! the courts agreed with me although it has taken over a year on that point alone!
Our child is 2 1/2 we split when he was 18 months old and my partner is doing everythuing possible to erase me, now also saying that our daily telephone call is also a problem to her and our child depite him shouting daddy when I call
any help appreciated
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