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Just wondering the stance on being asked for more money on top of csa?
I'd like to start by pointing out that, I have been paying csa for many years now and I have no problem at all with this, as it is my duty as an absent father to contribute toward my kids upbringing,
The situation I am in at the moment is that I am taking my 4 children on holiday to turkey next month at quite a considerable cost, this month 2 of my children have asked me directly for money to pay for a school trip to Thorpe park and towards prom night shoes, this amounts to £70 which isn't a great deal but it is when I need every penny towards the holiday. I have been confronted by the mum about it, to which my response was that it could be taken from the csa payments. Mum was not happy and an argument ensued which resulted in her not allowing me to have my children on that particular weekend. This is not the problem for me as I know once she calms down it will be back to normal.
My problem is that my children now believe I am satans spawn! can somebody please put their independent views across to make me see what I am doing right or wrong?
Mmmm....
Legaly you are correct in that you dont have to pay any more than the CSA payments.
However....
I think your problem will be one of perception in respect of your children.
You could explain to them that the holiday that you are taking them on is using all of your spare money and so decisions have to be made in respect of what the money can be spent on.
Could you involve them in this and suggest that they decide if the money is spent on shoes or school trip then they have to decide which part of the holiday is cut back on?
It may be that if the money is spent on trip or shoes then theyre spending money is cut or there will be less trips in Turkey?
Regards,
Dave
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