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Hi everyone,
I am not sure this is the right section but basically i am a full time parent with my son 7 year old boy. We did live on the south coast of England but moved to Scotland after my ex lost custody of our son due to her longstanding mental health, drink and drug problems. The whole thing was exhausting, as you can imagine. My parents moved to Scotland and 6 months later we moved up here as well, to have familial support and to defrag. However, after nearly 9 months here now i am starting to feel guilty about the move. My sons mum rings once a month (maybe) and missed contacts when we were down south. I would feel better knowing that at least he's not so far away from her, even if she doesn't make an effort. But, we rent from a social landlord here in Scotland and would need to rent privately down south. I am a full time mature student doing a 3 year online degree and my son is home educated. We are in receipt of housing benefit. I have 1 CCJ (satisfied), no chance either of a guarantor. How are we to move back down south? Dorset is where i am looking. Deposit shouldn't be a problem but i cannot see how we can rent so my son can at least be a bit closer to his mum..
Any ideas?
Cheers
Hi, far as am aware,not all landlords demand a guarantor. If your facing difficulties, perhaps your ex has ideas about how this can be sorted?
If your in council housing, many areas operate a home swap scheme, maybe this is something you can look into?
@bill337
Im not facing any difficulty other than trying to move down to the south coast again. But thanks for the reply.
Is there any court order for who and where your son lives? The only reason I ask is that moving from Scotland to England is moving countries, and the court order may well place restrictions on that, so you'd need to clarify that point.
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