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Im in a decent job, paid just over 40k but im paying the mortgage, outstanding joint finance obligations, kids mobile phone bills, travel costs to see my kids twice a month, £120 petrol bill and my rent. Im left with pretty much nothing to live on at tne end of the month. Is there anyway/anywhere I can get additional financial support such as rent support?
Ive looked but nothing seems geared to support the dad.
I would contact the Citizens Advice Bureau, they will know if there are any benefits, but I'm not aware of any that you are likely to be able to claim on your level of income. If you are paying mainenance via CSA or CMS, there is a reduction for travel to maintain contact with your children, and also for outstanding finance if it was taken out when you were together and for the benefit of the family (not credit cards though). Also if the children stay with you more than 52 nights a year, then there would also be a reduction. I would also get some legal advice on the fact that you are paying the mortgage - that certainly needs to be looked at.
Hi there
Like actd I don't think that you would be entitled to any financial support because of your income.
Does your ex work and do you pay maintenance on top of the outgoings you've mentioned? It might help for you to find out how much Child maintenance you would be expected to pay if you were paying through a statutory agreement with the CMS. Here's a link to their calculator
www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance
Once you have ascertained the amount you should be paying it would be a good basis to start negotiations with your ex to work out an amount that would be fair.
You can also look at https://www.turn2us.org.uk/ to see if you are entitled to any help, they also have details of grant and trust providers on there.
Good luck
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