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Just joined as of yesterday I no longer live with my wife and children her choice not mine.
I need some help with what I do about the house and the bills has she cannot afford to pay them all without me but I can't afford to rent another house or flat and pay both. She earns roughly the same as me. What do I do I am currently on a friends sofa but have no family within 150 miles
Thanks
Hi There,
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It would depend on the situation, if your home was mortgaged then you are still liable to pay half of that mortgage until such time that you are released from it, or could agree a solution with your wife, if it's rented, then you may need to check the lease to see what clauses were written in.
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With the bills you aren't legally liable for them, but they may need the account details changing to your wifes name solely,
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Are you looking at advice on trying to help your ex, or in trying to remove yourself from paying towards the home so that you can find somewhere for yourself?
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GTTS
Hi there
Depending on your wife's income she may be entitled to benefits that you weren't entitled to with two wages coming in. She needs to look into that and put a a claim in asap... Working tax credits and possibly help with housing costs if you rent. You need to get the utilities in her name and sort out child maintenance payments. Here's a link to the CMS calculator to check roughly what you would be expected to pay
www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance
It's preferable to try and keep the arrangement for maintenance between yourselves, this is called a family based arrangement.
It's a tough time for you and things must seem pretty insurmountable at the moment....sleeping on a mates sofa isn't great and not having family close is a struggle for you.
I think if you can sit down and go over the finances with her, give her a little leeway for a couple of months (for the children's same) , help,with the bills until she can get alternative arrangements in place, that would be for the best for everyone.
Best of luck
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