[Solved] Good independent resources for separation advice

I'm not certain about this, but I think that until there is any court order, then there is no compulsion for you to do anything, any more than there is for her to I would certainly keep a track of all expenses from now, and make sure that she doesn't have access to your accounts, but I think it would also be worth getting at least an initial consultation with a solicitor, and certainly don't believe anything her solicitor tells you as they may try to bluff you into a position you don't want to be in.

There's a great book by Marilyn Stowe, an eminent divorce lawyer, it's called "divorce and splitting up" and you can buy it for 99p as a kindle download from amazon...here's a link

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00RM0ZU6A?*Version*=1&*entries*=0

There's also a good website called Wikivorce.com with lots of info specifically about all aspects of divorce.

All the best

hi all this sounds rather relevant to myself, my wife and I have mutually decided our relationship is at an end. we have a 9yr old daughter who we both love and cherish my wife works part time and I work shifts so have reluctantly agreed to her having custody

My concerns are financially I pay every household bill the mortgage which is in my name only l have done so for the past 6yrs or more due to my wife's health and then subsequent unemployment periods I am quite prepared to split our assets equally sell the family home and split the equity.

My wife was planning on renting due to concerns regarding obtaining and paying a mortgage but today has mentioned that she would like to stay or is unsure about moving out and would like to stay in the house and me move out, she seems under the impression after a brief meeting with a solicitor that I would be forced to continue meeting the household bills including mortgage and then still have to pay my own bills elsewhere which is financially impossible as my income is only £24k after explaining that it is impossible to do that her answer is to move up my mum's which I have no intention of doing, is this the case or is my wife poorly informed.

Any help or advice be greatly appreciated although things amicable I need to know my rights

You really need professional advice, even if only paying for a couple of hours with a solicitor (you may get an initial consulation free) as it could save you a lot of money in the long run - her solicitor will potentially try to bluff you into accepting something that you don't have to. Once you know the facts, then you might be in a better position to come to some agreement. It may be worth conceding some points if it avoids you both using solicitors, otherwise any gains you may makee will be swallowed up in legal costs if you use solicitors for the divorce.