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Hello All,
Looking at my impending divorce i have been round in circles with regards to financial issue's and all the potential permutations. So here goes, So far everything is very amicable and want to be very fair. Marriage lasted 18years 2 kids aged 13 and 16, joint parenting will be the order of the day but most likely a bias towards myself especially for the eldest. I have paid from day 1 all financial commitments and also accrued a large amount of savings now 50/50 split. The mortgage is almost gone and the house has approx 150K of collateral. My wife and i met when she was just finishing UNI and she never had a career before we started a family, once the kids were at full time school she started part time working and is now in full time employment and training up to become a full blown teacher ( i paid for the training and her degree fees ). What puzzles me is that looking at my wages it might likely that she recieves far more than me from the split on the basis that i can afford to start again. BUT i am 47 worked all my life and always paid for everything also if such a decision was made literally upon signing i could lose my current job and be completely down and out having given everything to her. I have no professional qualifications such as a degree and know i would never get near my current wages if i lose my current job. Currently all is well via mediation but i was interested to know if the courts are so narrow sighted to make hugh decisions based on todays circumstances only. Thanks for any info
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