[Solved] Financial arrangements with ex: Advice

Thanks actd

If I open a case with CMS will it cost me anything?

hi matt,

it costs one-off £20 to register with CMS. best thing i did and saving me lot of grief.

I understand this, and make sure you get plenty of advice here, but your viewpoint will get you nowhere IMO.

The court is likely to rule your ex keeps the house for a varying period of time and at significant expense to you and upon selling is is likely to get more than half. A divorce means the severance of the bonds you had when you were married, these include financial.

By asking her to agree to a sale in a polite way, you're probably not going to do any harm.

Just by way of comparison, I paid the joint mortgage for 2 years solo, she did her best to sabotage her career, got awarded a deferred sale (2 years), 70% share from the sale and I pay half the mortgage until then - nowhere was my good behaviour in not halting mortgage payments rewarded or compensated. I give this example not so people can play their violins (and I think I'm in a better situation than many), but just to show you that the courts are inherently biased to the mothers and that the process is a scam (they award custody to the mother almost always, then from that your resources are significantly given to the mother).

Again, the above is just my opinion!

I read your post again.

My advice is - don't get divorced - if your wife is in any way reasonable, just don't do it. Do counselling, do whatever but try and avoid a divorce.

Your CMS payments are set against your earnings minus pension contributions, so this doesn't change.

If you go down a divorce route, judges may make you pay more than the CMS. Whatever you do now could set a precedent and the court doesn't care about decent behaviour, in my opinion.

I also lived with my parents to save money, but my feeling is had I not done, the court would've awarded her less, because they can't rule that you have to live with them!

So be careful about how you set up the status quo!

should be a rule of thumb to never open a joint account.

Thanks for your advice guys. As Columbo used to say, "just one more thing..."

If I continue to pay half the mortgage until such time as the kids leave home, and then we decide to sell the house, could I expect the profits from the sale to be split 50/50 between her and I?