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The ex is taking me to court as she is wanting more than a 50/50 split of our house, any advice guidance / advice appreciated.
Background: She run of with kids, accused me of all sorts and i had fact finding and nothing was proven against me.
Cafcass section 7 recommends i have kids every other weekend fri-monday (4 nights)
i have a final hearing for child arrangements coming up next month. im going to ask for more access (extra night or 2) and cafcass clearley showed my youngest is being manipulated by mother to say stuff against me, my contact centre reports proves this also.
On another note, she is now taking me to court as she wanted a bigger than 50/50 split of the house. First hearing scheduled in 2 months we have no other assets or money, the house is the only thing in the pot. i have a modest salary also, and no savings. shes also after spousal maintenance, we was married 7 years with 2 young kids.
Whats her chances of getting more than 50/50 of house. she rehoused herself back at parents, im still in the house paying all bills etc. house is up for sale, and we have a potential buyer. shes played every trick against me in the book, you name it and i been accused of it. bottom line i need to rehouse myself and when i have the kids also. can she get more, if she does it will make it difficult for me to buy another place.
Hi
Each case turn on its own merits and the court hearings.
Although you say she has rehoused herself at parents, this isn't the case, the court will consider that she needs to house herself and the kids.
Its unlikely she will get spousal maintenance as this is usually where there are significant savings and income in order to maintain the spouse's quality of life after divorce, in your case, you could just quit job so court unlikely grant this. Re the 50:50, as she will be with the kids, there is every possibility of a 60:40 split (no more) to account for her and the children's needs which after all are the priority (children, not hers)..
If she doesnt work, but has qualifications and a significant employment history that means she can work to meet her needs then these should be areas of focus for you.
Hope this helps.
hi
she currently stopped working when she left, but shes been always working before. she is qualified to.
will the courts not look at that the kids will be with me at least 8-10 nights per month plus shared holidays, and that i will also need to provide housing for myself and them?
Yes the courts will consider that, however, they will be permanently residing at the mother's and therefore that is also a factor, you have to consider both sides and formulate a strategy accordingly. The fact that the children will be with her more, that may well impact her ability to work and thus increase her needs etc.
As I say, there are too many variables to consider that it's impossible to advise on here. You may want to consider some legal advice as this is the only way you can get definitive guidance, but even then it still depends on what happens at court.
I would stand my ground at 50:50 and walk away at 55:45 (with no spousal maintenance) if negotiated out of court and suggested by your ex (I wouldn't suggest anything)..
Often the other party low [censored] and threatens spousal maintenance to get you to agree a higher split for them.. The courts and solicitors are aware of this..
i said its fair to go 50/50 as we both will have kids to look after, and should think of that so we can both rehouse ourselves. i also paid for more of the house and paid all bills so she could save her money.
she wanted 70/30 split but said she would accept 65/35. i already pay her child maintenance as well. i stood firm at 50/50 and now shes taking me to court over it. she keeps saying shes the primary carer. she has totally tried to isolate me from the kids, and give me the minimum acccess to them, all i know for her financial gain. i would give her more if i could, but i have no savings, and spent what little money i had defending all the allegations she made against me in court. ive also had to borrow money from family to pay for court fees.
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