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Thank you both. I feel a little more confident but still, I can't afford a lawyer so I'm going on my own, I have absolutely nothing to hide.
Me and her, we were friends, in fact I was friends with both her and her husband! We had dinners together, help each other out etc. Until one day that they moved further away (3 hours drive) and I asked them to help me with the journey (I.e drive half way or something similar) just so I could see my son. She refused and said "if you wanna see your son you need to come and see him, I'm not doing any travelling". But this is not fair! I didn't ask her to move and I'm happy for them that they moved however I'm the one who's screwed as if I want to see my son I will need to drive a total of 6 hours!!!!
So I said to her. If I do that I will be taking the motoring costs out of the child maintenance and if my son needs any thing I will be buying him what he needs.
I did it and you can now imagine what happened... She said that my son doesn't want to see me. I asked various times why?! She said she doesn't know why so I said let me speak to him, she replied he doesn't want to speak to you. After emails back and forwards we agreed to meet. I went up, waited for her at the agreed location and she never showed up. I went to her house and that's when I discovered she has moved! She disappeared with my son!!! I sent her an email basically saying that if she doesn't come forward I would go to court and file a C4 and C100.
Last Monday I received and Non - Molestion Order... With accusations that I spent almost half an hour looking at the document and shouting "[censored]!!".
It is horrible when you see the other side of that person. Someone that you'd never guess that they would be like this.
Anyway... Now just gotta deal with it.
Thanks guys.
SuperProudDad - can you explain what you meant by going to full trial? Do you mean a trial in a court of law?
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