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Hi All,
As I'm sure is one of the most common arguments people have with their ex's, mine is asking for more, and more, and more...
I'm after a bit of advice on how I should handle this. So I have my kids about half the time, 6 nights in a fortnight, I pay child support based on the .gov child support calculator and I buy extra bits like school shoes, pe kits over the summer and pay for their clubs. As far as I'm concerned I'm doing what I need + more.
How do you handle asking for more when they're saying I need money for X and Y? I may be wrong in my thoughts but I believe I pay too much as it is, considering they stay with me half the time where I feed, clothe, and take them out etc, it really gets my goat that I'm paying her hundreds of pounds a month when she only has them one extra day and she doesn't work, anyway, I'm going off on a rant.. If I say no, I'm paying what I need + more all the threats start coming in. It goes quiet for a couple months then starts up again, and I can honestly say it's the only stress in my life, I'm trying to work and my phone is going non stop. How do I get around this?
Would be very grateful for any insight, or advice relating to how you've dealt with it!
There isn't really anything you can do other than trying to reach agreement with the mother directly. Perhaps work out what you are legally obliged to pay and then let her know that amount or discuss if you are prepared to pay anything over. You could try doing it at mediation if you can't do it between yourselves.
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