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I am just recently separated from my partner who has moved back to her parents with our 19 month old child
i am in full time work and she works at the weekends
together we have 12k in debts which she owes half of
we have agreed through talks about how much a month that she needs to pay, should i get an agreement in writing which we both sign so this protects both of us?
also as she earns £500+ a month from her work plus an extra £100 a month from looking after her cousins son once a month plus the child benefit am i liable for any extra payments as she has no outgoings i.e. rent, council tax etc. as i have taken over these and not asked a penny from her
also when we met she did not have a car and she used my car, when we got pregnant i had to change the car to a family friendly car and the car is in my name and since our son was born her income from her job did not cover her half of the standard living costs so she has not paid anything towards the car payments, insurance and road tax. is she entitled to the car?
many thanks in advance for any response to this topic
Hi
I would suggest that you have a word with the Citizens Advice Bureau as there's quite a lot going on with your finances. You will need to make maintenance payments of 15% of your takehome pay for child maintenance, but I'm unsure about the rest.
I'd certainly try to get the agreement in writing if possible as it can prevent misunderstandings later on.
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