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Hi. How do I stand in regards to csa payments after one if my daughters has decided that she wants to live with me Did my new wife. I have two daughters. It had been suggested to me that I should stop payment as we both have a daughter living with us. Need some clarification and advice please.
Hi,
I am not a 100% on this but i still think you pay a certain percentage to the mother, its obviously less than the amount first agreed. If you get full custody maybe you stop paying the mother all together, contact the CMS directly. Admin can verify it but thats my understanding.
Paul
Hi there
If you and the mother can agree that having care of one child each cancels out any maintenance payments, this would be what's called a family based arrangement. If there's an existing case open with the CSA, the mother would have to contact them and inform them of the new arrangement. If you are currently paying via the CSA I wouldn't advise just stopping payment...that's not the way it works.
If this can't be achieved, you would need to be in receipt of child benefit for the child that lives with you and then you would be entitled to CSA (CMS) from the mother. As this is calculated on a percentage of income, if you earned more than the mother you would pay more in maintenance. If the mother didn't work and was on benefits, she wouldn't have to pay you anything, or if she was only on a low income, it could just be a very small amount.
The best bet is to try and negotiate with the mother and see if you can't come to an arrangement between yourselves.
Best of luck.
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