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I wanted to ask the following: My ex-partner (we never married), is a millionaire. She has a few million in the bank and loads of properties that she rents out, here and abroad. I am on about £32k per annum. Because I have asked for Shared residence, she has launched a war against me and is now claiming Child Support for our twins (7.5 years old). Will the court grant her that, considering her wealth and my salary?
Hi there 🙂
Judges in Family Law cases do not consider maintenance issues, they will only deal with the contact/residence side of things. She can however claim child support through the CSA and they will take a percentage of your salary. They will do this regardless of her income, or your outgoings I'm afraid! shocking huh! 😡
There is a sticky at the top of the Child Maintenance section called "How does the CSA calculate payments" it linkds to a CSA leaflet that will explain in more detail about how much they will expect you to pay. You can also google the CSA calculator and input your details, you will then be given a guideline amount that you should pay.
Hey, sorry for the long delay. I had the court hearing and was up to my eyeballs.
Thanks for you reply. Shocking indeed. Her income is more than 10 times more than mine, but she can still claim, and she has. Does not make sense to me ... :boohoo:
I'm in the same boat. I don't mind paying to my kids directly now they're over 18, but this crippling monthly expenditure is nuts in such circumstances. Especially as the kids are away at boarding school and the ex is awya most weekends. How many people are in this situation. A numb one size fits all approach is ridiculous.
It does seem so unfair, I personally believe that in this time of equality, both parents income should be taken account of... but I also think that if the resident parent obstructs overnight stays, the amount of maintenance should be reduced not increased!
That said there are plenty of non resident parents getting away with not paying, my own daughter is owed thousands, but her ex works cash in hand, just to avoid paying for his son!
When you have a system that works for millions, there will always be a percentage that are let down by that system, or treated unfairly by it.
I guess you’re on the home stretch, once your children are 20 your payments to her will finally stop.
i guess the only way out of that one-sided system, is go to court to fight for 50/50 shared care. then if you get that, child maintenance payments are scrapped.
You are contributing to the costs of looking after your children. The fact your Ex is loaded is irrelevant.
In my opinion the system is messed up for high earners paying maintenance, the more you earn the more you pay (this stops at £350,000). I can't understand why the cap isn't much much lower.
yes some strange policies in place. even if your on benefits/at home dad, you have to pay £7 a week in maintenance lol
Hi,
understanding that maintenance is paid whilst your children are in time full time education & that they stop once they reach age 20, one thing I have always wondered is do they ever reduce once a child reaches 16 or 18 or is it solely based on income/education status and does the age of the children bare no relevance ?
many thanks
john
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