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I'm posting on behalf of my new partner. He is currently separated from Stbx and the divorce papers go to solicitor mid May when two years are reached.
Son is nearly 17 and has been living with his Mum and staying with Dad weekends. This has all changed now and son is now going to live with Dad as primary carer and visit Mum. This isn't a decision he has taken lightly and been months of thinking and deciding.
There is a family home which my partner is assuming can now be sold as no other children live there. My partner works and his Stbx doesn't but is perfectly capable of doing so.
Can he now contact an estate agent to put the house on the market? At present he pays whole mortgage, she hasn't paid any mortgage since last September.
Sons contact details have been changed at college doctors etc.
Does he now contact CB office to get that changed ? At present he pays Stbx CM through CSA. Can't imagine she will tell CB office or CSA that she is no longer primary carer so where does that leave him ?
Thank you for any help.
Hi
I would contact the citizens advice bureau to get some advice on the property - if it's in joint names, then it may need her signature to sell it, and if she refuses, then the court can order it - I would think it is something that can be done as part of the divorce process.
Your partner needs to apply for child benefit as soon as his son moves in - I think his ex may continue to get the benefit for a few weeks, but make sure that it is going to be moved. If his ex refuses to confirm that he is no longer living there, then ask the benefits office what his son can do to confirm the change. Also, as soon as CB is being paid to him, he can go for child maintenance against his ex if she has an income or is on benefits.
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