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Cutting a long story short, in losing our house four years ago (through my financial mismanagement) which meant we both had to go bankrupt, my wife lost her £36k savings she had invested as deposit. Now we are separating, she wants it back!
For the purposes of this discussion, I am not going to challenge that principle....
...but, I have no money and am currently not in a very well paid job.
My main question is - In this situation, is there a way that she can refuse to accept any 'small amount per month over a large number of years' type of offer that I can realistically make at this point, and instead look to claim the money from my parents instead? On what, if any, grounds could she legitimately go after them for money???
Could she make a claim against any lump sums I receive (ie any inheritance)?
In an ideal world, it would great if I could borrow the money from somewhere so that she could be paid in full now and I could gradually pay them back over many years, but I suspect such a scheme does not exist (especially for a discharged bankrupt).
I suspect that she could claim later on inheritance or pensions just like any ex wife could.
I cant see how you can be forced to borrow to pay her this money, might be wrong, and I think that she would have to accept what ever you can offer at the moment or wait for said inheritance or pension if they exist.
Regards,
Dave
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