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Every time my ex brings the kids to see me she is packing and taking things with her - it's got to the point where there is barely anything left of the kids (bear in mind we had a houseful of stuff). I don't begrudge the kids anything but now she's talking about taking beds, furniture, etc. Should the mediation go as planned, we should both have shared residency or equal access - so I'm going to need some of this stuff. The boat has already been rocked to the point of sinking - can I do anything to keep more of our belongings.
Notice has now been given on our rented house - if I only get a one or two bedroom flat/house I'm going to need beds and everything else. I don't mind sharing but she's literally taking almost everything. What can I do? I want to be as supportive as possible but if you knew the whole story she doesn't deserve me being so nice. Everything she's doing and has done in the past six weeks is so unfair. It's like she's a completely different person or like she's been possessed by some demonic being. I barely recognise who she is any more.
Sorry to read this, it's a very familiar story on the forum of how your ex turns into a horrible person you don't recognise.
Legally, there's not much you can do about the belongings I'm afraid. Perhaps try to discuss this when the children aren't there or by arranging for you to pick them up and drop them off from there so she isn't coming into the home and taking things? If you have agreed to have equal access then yes, the children will need some things with you too. Depending on how much time they're currently spending with each of you, it's worth bearing in mind some things the children might want to have with them. If they're old enough, you could try to decide with them.
Failing that, it's something you will have to discuss at mediation.
Good luck
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