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If I buy a house and I'm not divorced is my wife still entitled to future purchases, we are separated?

Thanks for your response. I’ve just seen it. Hope you’re feeling better.
I asked about mediation but she’s not interested she’s filed for divorce and that’s it. To be honest I’m not sure I could ever trust her again.
She contacted Stepchange already but doesn’t appear to have got very far.
The debts are mostly in her name apart from the mortgage and one joint loan that I guaranteed for her.
I’m just going crazy living here and not having any money or anywhere to move out. If I default on the mortgage then that has repercussions for my work.
She threatens me that she’ll have me evicted because I’m verbally abusing her - when actually I’m just standing my ground and not leaving, This is just making me so depressed and I feel so bad for the kids 🙁

If I buy a house and I'm not divorced is my wife still entitled to future purchases, we are separated?

Hi there

It’s not a good idea to post on another users thread as it can get overlooked, as appears to be the case here.

I think any assets you have at the time of you divorce would form part of a financial settlement. It’s probably wise to consider a clean break order as part of the divorce, this would mean that she wouldn’t have any future claims on you after the divorce has been finalised.

Thanks for your response. I’ve just seen it. Hope you’re feeling better.
I asked about mediation but she’s not interested she’s filed for divorce and that’s it. To be honest I’m not sure I could ever trust her again.
She contacted Stepchange already but doesn’t appear to have got very far.
The debts are mostly in her name apart from the mortgage and one joint loan that I guaranteed for her.
I’m just going crazy living here and not having any money or anywhere to move out. If I default on the mortgage then that has repercussions for my work.
She threatens me that she’ll have me evicted because I’m verbally abusing her - when actually I’m just standing my ground and not leaving, This is just making me so depressed and I feel so bad for the kids 🙁

I think you have to be very careful about any type of confrontation, even if its a matter of standing your ground, it would be quite easy for her to obtain an occupation order, and also a non molestation order too, which would make things more difficult for you. I would avoid contact with her, if you have a separate room, use it to put space between you, try not to be around when sh is... not at all easy I know, when you’re living under the same roof.

Could you speak to your mortgage provider about the possibility of interest only payments to allow you to sort your accommodation out, or perhaps a 3month “holiday”from payments? Obviously they will want the mortgage covered and that will be their priority.

It might be a good idea to talk to your boss about your predicament too and see if they can offer any advice about your situation.

Best of luck

Hi Samantha,
My wife has now turned really hostile in the form of treats and demands of wanting the house or she will go for my military pension.
She keeps saying that she is only doing this for our daughters future however the way she is going about it is involving her family in this and since she has involved them she's just turned into b***h mode. I honestly don't know what to do now.
However she has now arranged for mediation even though when I suggested it she didn't want to do it at all.