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I was separated with my wife when my son was 3 months old. His mother cut all contact with him since then
I lately got a court order to see him for 2 hours, 2 days a week.
I am very happy but concerned as his mother said that he starts crying as soon as she is out of sight.
I am afraid that when I will meet him without her, he will be crying all the time and I won't be able to calm him down.
Can you please give me some advice on how to behave for the first time I will see him?
Thank you.
Hi There,
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There is a good chance that if your ex left your daughter for longer she would soon settle, but the chances are she returns, so your daughter has gotten used to the fact that your ex returns when she cries so she keeps doing it.
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If when she leaves your daugher with you, she won't settle then just stay calm, and sooth her, if she won't settle still, try leaving her in a safe way (while keeping a close eye on, her) hopefully when you go back in she will stay a bit more settled.
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GTTS
Thank you very much for your answer. I really appreciate it.
It may take a little time for him to settle, but if he cries, try and stay calm and distract him with a toy, talking gently to him, offering something to eat or drink might help too., getting anxious will only make him worse, so keep smiling and trying different things to take his mind off his tears.
Babies are very good at picking up on anxiety, so try not to get too wound up before seeing him, as this might effect how he is with you.
It's might seem difficult at first, but he will settle and before long will be all smiles when he sees you
Thank you very much for your advice. I am sure it will be very helpful when I will see him.
Hi.
I recently put up a post about my son who is 2 crying when I pick him up from his mums and the lads on hear gave me some great advice but I found when my son was younger and still do now is that toys work wonders.
When I pick my son up this weekend and when he crys at home I have a bag of tricks, toys,drink, snacks etc and I just say " look what I've got " and pull something out the bag and works wonders. I also found showing picture and pop up books great for soothing.
Good luck
Thank you, I like the bag of tricks idea.I bought him yesterday a full bundle of toys and I will try to do something similar like you.
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