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Hi All,
I'm looking for ideas for presents for my child's birthday they will be 14, looking for both boys and girls ideas please. I've not seen my child for over a year so it's hard to know what they are into anymore. 🙁
What is the thing to have?
Anything Techy....games consoles, the latest phones....but it's probably better to consult with the mother to avoid duplicating gifts.
Perhaps as you haven't seen them for so long it might be preferable to buy gift vouchers. There's so much choice, all the top shops have them....I know it seems that buying vouchers is a cop out but I think teenagers like the independence of going out shopping and choosing their own gifts.
Hi,
I don't like the idea of vouchers as the mother will say it's a cop out and I don't think of them. )Saying that though it's better than sending money I guess.) She also won't me know what she is buying or what they might like. I'm completely in the dark.
How about either some activity that they enjoy (or might want to try), or you could offer to pay for a meal out with their friends, and possibly hire a limo to collect them?
Hi,
I Like the idea of an activity for them, if you could come up with something you think they would like.
The other option is to send them cards with a note in saying that you have put some money aside for them and that when you are able too you will take them shopping to get something they like, this way it's not vouchers or money.
GTTS
Thanks for the ideas everyone. In this scenario it's finding something that the child's mother can't twist into some story.
I like the cash put to one side idea, however I just think she'll turn that round to say I'm trying to blackmail them into seeing me, or she'll.say to just send them the cash instead.
Those that have read some of my previous posts will know my ex is a nightmare.
Time to have a think, but thank you everyone.
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