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Hi all
Couldn't take any mire of my partners behaviour, 7 years of [censored] and another ridiculous episode from her yesterday. Decided that had to be it or I would end up topping myself. My beautiful daughter is constantly in my thoughts but I could nit bear to subject to our hatred any longer.
I miss het so much after only 24 hours. Don't know how I'm going to cope or deal with the legalities. She is already bring difficult, has no concept of the law and I have no doubt she'll try to destroy me further.
How the [censored] do you keep going. If I could sleep and not wake up I would if it weren't for my beautiful little girl.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone, especially when it could all be so reasonable.
Stu
Hi Mack,
You must be in pieces at the moment, but your right to be staying strong for your little girl.
The hurt of missing her will get better, you will miss her of cource but you will deal with it better, it won't hurt so much.
The legalities will be confusing but we can help you through them, the most important thing is to keep eating and get as much sleep as you are able to, the better you look after yourself the better you will deal with the situation.
GTTS
I just feel awful leaving my innocent baby but the relationship has made me the most emotionally fragile I've ever been. We should have split years ago and I can't believe we've done this to a child. All I can think about is not seeing her, not knowing me and being told a pack of lies about me.
Really struggling to hold it all together.
As I said the first few days are tough, but they get easier, you will need to get some advice, I would see if you can get your childs mother to attend a mediation session with you to try and get some things sorted.
With a 3rd party present you may manage to get some things ironed out.
If your not able to agree through mediation then the courts would be the next step.
I would say though to be realistic on contact time with your daughter from the start, remember she is still very young and is actually very dependant on her mum, your ex may play on this but to a certain extent she will be right and contact will probably (even if ordered by a judge) be little and often to allow your daughter to not be too far from her mum.
GTTS
Hi mack
How are you doing today ?
Gooner
Awful, guilt ridden even though I know the relationship was a total mess. I just can't stop thinking of my beautiful helpless little girl being brought up without me around, soon to forget about me. I do feel for the ex too having to do this on her own, but I need to stop being so soft.
With only 2 weeks left of the 6 week deadline to register the birth I instructed a solicitor to draft a letter today regarding my legal rights. Hopefully she'll get this Monday latest. That's if she hasn't registered the birth already!
🙁
Hi,
Hope your feeling a little more positive.
You may feel bad that you won't be there with your little girl, but staying wouldn't have been good for her if things were as bad as they were then she would have suffered as she grew older so not being there is the best thing.
Your doing the right thing by getting the birth registered properly and getting your name on the birth cert.
GTTS
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