[Solved] social services ripped family apart. help please!

I have filled out a CAO I think that is a c100? I'm just waiting for my probation worker to go through it as it's quite complicated. I have been to the doctors, they've put me on a cbt programme. How do I get a interim order so I can see her sooner? What will happen if I am convicted of harrassment in terms of contact. Whats likely to happen if not?

I am on need of some help. I'm in the process of filling out the contact form etc, however I have doubts about trying to gain contact in this way. The reason being it's not actually her mum stopping me seeing my daughter, it is the ss who are advising her not to let contact happen. With this court date upcoming for the harrassment charge which seems to have made things 10x worse I'm worried if I apply in the courts for contact now, they would probably give me minimum contact ie indirect contact which does not improve the situation for my daughter in any way. I'm wondering if basically because it's now a CAO order they will produce an order which decides where she must reside?, which will be with her mum. Am I right in thinking thus, has anyone been through the process. Thanks.

I have just made a subject access request to my social worker and this was the reply.

I am currently out of the office until 30th July 2016 if you need urgent assisstance please ring duty on 0300 123 6720 thanks Nicola Holt,

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Firstly the date is obviously incorrect or she got back a couple of weeks ago and hasn't changed this automated response. Also I find it quite disrespectful she would advertise fostering to family's in my situation.

I assume this is just a standard automated out of office reply and she's forgotten to update the date when she set it this time.

And the latter part is okay?

It's probably just standard CS signature......

What do you suggest I do in order to gain contact. I know people who have done a lot worse than myself yet they have contact. It's a joke. Sick of it now.

I think as we've said before, unfortunately, you are playing the long game. Am I right in thinking you have submitted a C100 now and should have a hearing soon? You will have to request interim contact at the first hearing. With the situation as is, the only thing that can orchestrate contact is a court order....

I'm not going for a court order. I shouldn't have to fight my partner/ ex partner in court when it's not her stopping me. And I don't feel they have the grounds to stop me seeing my daughter it's ridiculous.
The reels only so long they can stop me for iv done everything they have asked of me. I messaged my ex saying I miss my daughter. Big deal.

Went to the appointment with the mental health specialist today which I self referee myself for with the advice of my probation worker. The specialist came to the conclusion I have no mental illness/depression that she can help with as what I am experiencing is completely normal for someone who hasn't seen their daughter for so long., which I have said all along. Now I have done literally every social services have asked me to do, I haven't contacted my ex like they said for a month and a half now aswell ( not even to ask how my daughter is) which is hard. But what else am I suppose to do to see my little girl now. Since day one I've been doing everything they told me except for messaging my partner to see how my daughter is. Iv been treated like complete garbage by the children's services. They have lied on numerous occasions, played games, and they don't even tell me how my little girl Is getting g on. They ignore my texts phone calls and emails as well as emails from the family rights group. My probation worker has nothing but good things to report, iv done everything all the courses asked of me, and more which went even asked of me. I just want my little girl back and the system is playing me, it's a disgrace. What am I supposed to do.

Really the only option open to you is to make an application to the court for a Child Arrangements Order. Are you near the date for the Harrassment charge? The advice I and Yoda gave you earlier still stands...you've done really well not to contact your ex, I would also advise that you stop trying to contact the Childrens Services, if they have been ignoring all communication, they may just try and present it as harrassment on your part.

Once you start the court process you will be able to put your case forward, I'm sure your probation officer will be asked to make a report and if they think you are doing really well that will be reflected in their report to the court.

At the moment you are at a stalemate, at least starting the court process will help you feel that you are doing something to change the situation you find yourself in currently.

I'm not going through court, I shouldn't have to. I'm not stooping contact with ss either why should I :s that's ridiculous, there supposed to be assessing whether I'm a risk to my daughter not ignoring the fact that the little girl has a dad who she needs