[Solved] social services ripped family apart. help please!

Thanks! I've seen somewhere that's it's best to present the case myself as the judge gets a feel for my views and feelings and the type of person I actually am rather than just going from reports. But I realise I don't have the experience so will probably miss important things I should be mentioning etc I see the positives and negatives for each. Iv never heard of a mckenzie friend and I will look into this. When and how do I request that cafcass carry out the assessment?
Thankyou

A McKenzie Friend can help you prepare all the paperwork, give support and guidance on how to present your case, they can also attend with you and sit next to you in court to take notes and quietly advise you when necessary. Either get a recommended one or pm one of the mods and one of us might be able to point you in the right direction for your area.

CAFCASS will undertake a safeguarding letter as previously detailed. It will be up to the court if they want to do a Section 7 but it's highly likely they will. Personally I would wait to see what the safeguarding letter says before you start planning what you will and won't request.

When you get close to the hearing, it's advisable to prepare a very short position statement to the court, if you have any requests, they would be detailed in that. It's likely the safeguarding letter will recommend a S7, so therefore you would say you agree with the recommendations of having an S7 done.

It can go in your favour to self rep and have your voice heard, but you need to present your case appropriately. It might be worth having a consultation with a solicitor just to get some advice.

Hi There,
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I think s Yoda has said self representing in court has it's advantages, but if i'm being 100% honest, with your temperment, it may not be the best option for you, on this forum, you have shown that you can be quite volatile, in the way that you discuss things, this is understandable as you are fed up and angry at how things have gone, but it won't help you in court if you get aggrivated and react, it will actually harm your case further and give the judge concerns that CS are right about what they have said.
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Unless you can be 100% certain you will be able to keep a lid on things and be calm and polite throughout, it would be advisable to have ssomeone with you to pull you back if things start getting heated.
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GTTS

Rang in sick today, as I had a migraine and being sick. It gas been the worst day in about 2 month. I miss my daughter so much. The cs arnt even involved anymore they've come along destroyed my life & my daughters life kicked me along the way and now they're gone again. I feel hopeless & helpless I don't know how much more I can take. Iv done everything asked of me, yet it's not enough. My birthday is next month I'm scared of not having her to hold when it was fathers day I didn't want to be here. It's so hard still I can't do this on my own anymore I just want my family back I'd do anything

Hi There,
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I know it's hard, believe me I've been there, You aren't an your own as we are supporting you, you seem to have turned a corner and are now using the right channels to get things sorted by going through court.
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Stay strong the wait to have your say in front of a judge isn't that far off.
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GTTS

I don't even know what I should be doing right now. My daughter needs me and I'm just waiting not knowing what to do or what's coming im too confused to figure it out I can't just sit and wait to see what happens I need to determine what happens. Some dad I am! Her mum's sister keeps messaging me iv asked her 10x to leave me alone she keeps saying she would be best off without me and all that it's really getting to me if I ever said anything bad back we all know where that would get me. I tell her to leave me alone and its harrassment because it's the 10th time I've asked her to leave me alone and apparantly she said it's not harrassment because iv messaged back ( asking her to leave me alone) this has been going on since the ss stepped down and apparently she has fallen out with my baby's mum surprise surprise I'm sure I said earlier in the thread that would happen.

Iv been off work this week she has made me depressed saying I should stay out of my daughters life. A few months ago she tried saying I killed her baby( because she had an argument with my baby's mum) which had nothing to do with me ( she was saying to her she hopes my daughter dies this was before she was born) I'm sure I mentioned that before to. O don't know what good posting all this [censored] on here is going to do i suppose I just needed to get it out better to be on here than in her inbox

I would report her to the police. You've already asked her to leave you alone. In my experience, if you report it to the police they will contact her and strongly suggest that she stops contacting you. If she still doesn't stop after that, it will have been recorded so you should be able to get a harassment order.

Call 101 though rather than 999 🙂

Hope that helps

I agree with Spottedtree. If you have asked her to leave you alone and she has continued to message you, this is harassment and you must report this to the police on 101. Block her if you can and do not reply to any further messages. The police will tell her to stop messaging you.

You have applied to the court now. I appreciate the wait is difficult, but you need to focus on getting to the first hearing and presenting your case in the best way you can.

Iv rang them in the past and they didn't take me serious. They ended up serving me with a warning because I was messaging my baby's mum to see her at the time

And thanks Yoda I don't know how to present the case the best way I can when I don't know what to expect at court. I'm constantly working etc and im in a daze with everything that's gone on I don't know where to start. I'd usually be good at this kind of stuff.

Either get a solicitor to write a statement for you or find a McKenzie Friend. You can also go to a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area, I'm sure you will get help there on how to present your case.