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Hi everyone,
I could really do with some advice on whether I should ask the ex partner to prove that I am the biological father of my 4 year old daughter.
We've just finished again a 10k court case (because I got a new girlfriend!!) But I have always had concerns that she is not mine. For example, I now know she was sleeping with many men whilst I was with her. I also only slept with her once in 12 months (she slept on the sofa). She was very drunk and saying "we can make a go of it again", " let's have another baby" so stupidly, I believed her. Then all of a sudden she was pregnant!! I had my concerns then but as for the sake of the children, you block it from your mind.
I've never had a bond with my girl and as she's getting older, she is looking more and more like someone else (others have also commented on this).
I'm being bombarded by CSA and have never seen the birth certificate.
You help how I can go about this without going back to court would really help!
Thanks
Hi There,
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You could ask for a DNS test, or if you are having contact you could just do one yourself and see what the result is, if you do it yourself you won't be harming the relationship between you and your ex if you are wrong and your daughter is yours.
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I seem to remember Boots selling kits that you sent off, but google tests and I'm sure plenty will come up.
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GTTS
Remember also, that if it shows she isn't yours, you are still liable for maintenance up until the DNA test shows otherwise (or your ex refuses to allow a test) so any arrears will still need to be paid if there are any.
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