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Hi guys
What do people do when it comes to children being invited to parties and it is on a day you have them?
I have 2 children that I have every Saturday at the moment trying to get ordered changed to every fortnight. If they invited to party from a friend should I be taking them?
At the moment the mother just takes them and I do not have them on this day. I see it as its meant to be my time with children and we do stuff as a family with my partner and her children. If I took them to party they would miss this time
If she's cancelling a Saturday then she should really offer a Sunday as an alternative contact or, give you the option of taking and collecting the children from the party. Obviously it's a family party, that might not be appropriate, but if it's a class mates party then you could just offer to take them during your contact hours?
Whilst attending social events should not take priority over contact with a non-resident parent, these events are important to children and they are likely to want to attend. If the mother cancels your Saturday on this basis and doesn't offer a replacement, that's an issue to raise at your next hearing as she will be in breach of the order.
Ok thanks for the advice
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