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Ok, hoping someone outthere can help with the problem I have. My son's girlfiend has just a baby, they have had a stormy relationship and she has been unfaithful! She says the baby is his but has not put him on the birth certificate or willing to do a dna, but she insists he is the dad and he has already bought cots, prams etc. Her other child by a previous dad has ended up on the child at risk register and the other dad has joint custody (sounding a bit Jeremy Kyle episode I know). I am the potential grandma and just need help on how to find out if I am a grandma or what. My son wants to know to, but to scared to upset the mum as he believes he will be cut out of the baby;'s life. Any comments or help would be gratefully received We all really want to have a relationship with this child if it is part of our family
Hello Grandma
Firstly, its strange that she wont do a DNA.
If your son think that he is father then he has the right to make an Application to the Court for Parental Responsibility and Contact. If she argues it the Court can the order a DNA test, although your son and the mother will have to pay for it probably 50/50. Only the Court can order a DNA test if the mother is refusing.
What is of concern is... is the other child on the At Risk Register still? If so, then the baby will also be on the At Risk Register. Your son can make enquiries of Children Services. If there is dispute over who is father, they can arrange the DNA (and I think pay for it too!!). When a child(ren) are on the Register, new babies are automatically place on it too.
I don't think he should worry about being cut out of the baby's life, after all, if he is not father, does he want to continue being a father and paying for the child and secondly, if he is the father he can make an application to the court or contact. Also if he is father, he has the right to know what is going on where Children's Services are concerned too if they are still involved.
Yeahh..might be a bit Jeremy Kyle, but what isn't is that your lad is stepping up the mark! 😆
Hi there,
I agree it's good your son wants to be involved.
I would contact social services and check on the welfare of the child as said they can advise if there is any risk, though i'm not sure what detail they will be able to give.
I think it's odd that she won't consent to a dna test the only reason I could see why would be if she wasn't 100% sure the child was your sons.
I would try and resolve the dna part before going any further as you may end up chasing down a route that hits a dead end if further down the line you get the dna test and find it isn't his child.
GTTS