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my ex is moving with my 2 year old son but wont tell me where shes moving him to refusing contact with him but im not sure i wont to put my son through the courts ive told it affects them the most. just wanted to know if theres any other process i could got through thats lets strain on my boy than going down that way??
Hi Buddy,
Firstly sorry to hear the bad news and secondly i am no expert i can tell you only my own experiences.
You can try mediation, it will cost you £70 if your in full time work and i think its free if your claiming benefits. You can ask her to take your son to a contact centre, ok they are not great but atleast you can still see him, but depending on your sons age, unless the mother influences him the court process should not effect him that much. Keep contact with her to a minimum, do everything by the book and then you will get no stress and your child will not get stressed to. I made the mistake of not taking the advice i have just given and i am currently battling back in court, dont make my mistakes.
Good luck
Hello marshy0813,
Going to court will NOT affect your Son at all. The child should be totally unaware of you going to court to get contact.
Children are affected if they are used as pawns by one parent to get at the other parent and when contact is refused which is totally unacceptable behaviour. Unfortunately this happens all too often, therefore, making it difficult emotionally for the child, it is mainly a parent who causes this trauma for the child/ren and definitely not the courts.
All children have a right to have their father in their lives and the father has the right to have his child/ren in his life (as long as there are no safeguarding issues). If you wish to be part of your child's life a Court Order for contact (legally binding) may be necessary particularly if the Mother is denying access and being unreasonable. Each parent is then fully aware of the contact days and times.
Prior to applying to the court for access it is mandatory to attempt mediation to see if matters can be resolved between the parents. If that is a hopeless situation the mediator can sign the appropriate form to enable you to submit an application to the court..
Many parents do not go to court but are reasonable with one another and agree arrangements between themselves as to what is best for their child/ren. If this route is taken there isn't anything legally binding for the future to stop a parent being unreasonable at some stage and causing further heartache.
Hi There,
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I think as has been said if you were to go down the mediation and then court route then teh effects on you son would be minimal, the only thing to effect him would be possibly picking up on bad moods or stress through your ex, whilst this happens, but at such a young age this isn't going to impact him.
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As has been said you would first need to try mediation, before you could apply to court and if your ex won't attend or you can't work anything out then you could apply to court.
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Good luck and if you need hep or support just ask.
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GTTS
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