[Solved] New here and in need of advice (rough patch)

That was good to read that you are being so considerate and still taking the positive approach. I hope all is still moving forwards. You are most likely right it will take some time but if you're patient and caring like you have been i hope things continue improving. Good luck!

Right,

I went over to see my partner yesterday (it was our anniversary), we had lunch, played with our daughter and actually chatted like two normal people, had a bit of a laugh too. This felt so great, felt great to be close to her again in some sense.
I brought round a gift for her, it was a photo album of our little family with some nice words, I also wrote her a letter again with a lot of meaningful words on.

I got back to my parents and no sooner had I got through the door, she text me saying"Why do this to me?". She was clearly talking about the letter and photo album. We got into texting quite a bit and it went along the lines of her saying she's so messed up and that she doesn't deserve me again, I deserve better, I took on too much when I met her, she's ruined everything etc.
I kept on saying to her that I'll always be there for her and always love her and she does deserve me.

I felt I handled her little outbreak quite well, just trying to be positive with my responses as seen above and the conversation did fizzle out in the end. However, she also did she that she wants to die and wishes she'd of killed herself when she wanted to. In my head I know she would never but it does ring alarm bells for me, it's worrying that she has those thoughts in her head and is the only one in the flat looking after our daughter. What would your advice be on that? Should I do anything about this? Should I raise this concern with her mother?

We met again today for lunch too which was nice and again the conversation was flowing as usual, smiling at each other too. It just feels as soon as we get back to the flat and we are about to part ways the mood changes. Again as I left, I told her I'll always be there for her, we hugged goodbye and I told her I loved her.

I feel like after yesterday and today the bubble I feel she's in was close to bursting and her realising herself that she needs help. Do I keep up this strategy in the hope that the bubble bursts itself or do I get her to see someone asap?

did you go to see Relate? I think that would be a great help at this stage.

One thing I'd possible avoid is texting - it can be quite impersonal compared to a phone call if someone is looking for support. Of course, unprompted texts just to say you are thinking of her are a different matter - that can always bring on a smile 🙂

I haven't been yet but I have an appointment booked.

I think in the height of the moment yesterday she wouldn't have answered a call. She's not answered before.

Anyway, it's positive right now which I'm happy about. I'm hoping she'll agree to watching a film together tomorrow after LO has gone to bed.

We'll see and I'll let you know whenever there's anymore progress. 🙂

Having my daughter for the day 🙂

Did ask if my partner wanted to join but she ignored it.

We spoke more yesterday, both of us went out shopping separately and just had good general chit chat via text.

I think the more general chat that we have the better, just shows that we can talk to each other and that we both do like to also.

Going to Relate next Friday.