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Hi all,
I'm after some help about initial contact with my son, i say initial contact but was part of his life up until the age of 15 months when his mother threw her toys out the biggie and stopped contact. contact was reinstated after i pursued her through court in Scotland but after she recieved the papers she relocated to England, however, between ourselves and our solicitors we agreed on contact to be reinstated. This went on for less than 6 months and contact broke down through no fault of mine. I've now had her in court in England and went through all the mediation and CAFCASS stuff, the court has made an order initially for indirect contact, meaning i can write or send a card to him every 2 weeks 🙁
I'm after a little help on how to word a little letter bearing in mind he doesn't know me but knows he has a dad and is probably too young to remember seeing me over a year ago.
Any advice/suggestions would be great.
Thanks
Craig
Just a thought - does indirect contact include sending a video message? That way he can see you, which might be easier for him to bond.
Also, as a matter of interest, did your ex seek permission to relocate to another country? Moving from Scotland to England counts as that as far as the law is concerned - though may be a little late to do anything about that now.
Hi,
The court did suggest video calling which she agreed to but wasn't ordered. So she probably won't go with that. No, she just upped sticks and moved. As far as I was aware at the time she could move to anywhere within the UK.
It wasn't so much a video call I was suggesting, but just recording a video message and sending that.
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