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Hi, thanks for reading this. I split from my ex of 14 years last year, it was her decision before I knew it we were selling house and we were over, I tried to put our family back together but she didn't want to know. The issue I have is she says my daughter needs her dad in her life but most weekends she changes plans so I don't get to see my daughter. I have been really civil for my daughters sake as she is 10 and I don't want her to suffer during this. My ex is manipulating my daughter so badly, they are close, so with us splitting up, my ex is clinging to my daughter and pulling her further away from me. Last weekend we had arranged I was going to pick her up at 11 and have her for the day and we were going out for dinner etc with my family. Ex text me an hour before to say I couldn't get her till 12.30, my daught then text me to ask what time I'd be taking her home as she had to go to BBQ with mum?! I called ex and asked her not to arrange things on days I have her, this is the first time I have spoken up, as I was in tears and my family encouraged me to speak up, she kicked off at me saying thank god she was no longer with me etc etc!!, she was really nasty, all i want is consistent regular access. To thro spanner in works, I lost my job 2 years ago, still getting work every now and then but not regularly and the money I earn I need for when I have my daughter. It is my daughters birthday and ex and daughter have asked me for present costing £400-£500!!! I'm so stressed as not only can I not provide money for my daughter at the moment, there expectations are ludicrous. I have provided all these years for my family, and not my ex throws it in my face about me not paying for her now. I am working on a new business/ partner business to help my financial situation out, but all my ex keeps saying is she has payed for everything for 2 years. I advised her I paid for everything the whole 12 years prior, but she informs me but that is n the past!!! How do I stand with legal aid to obtain regular access to my daughter. I have no say at the moment and have to tip toe around my ex to see daughter. I'm just trying to see my daughter and move on with my life. She keeps making threats about money etc so i need to know what to do as I can't afford solicitors etc, please help, many thanks
I have locked this thread to save confusion as it is also in the welcome boards and I have answered there.
Darren
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