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Hi,
I'm not sure if I'm in the right section of the forum - or indeed the right place all together! But appreciate any help either way.
Im feeling a little lost today!
I have a little girl whos 4 in April - I'm split from her mum and we have been for over 3 years. I used to see my daughter around 4 days a week and since I've got back into full time work I've had her every Fri/Sat/Sun without fail and taken her on holiday at least once a year. As you can imagine - we're very close and she's definitely a daddys girl (normally)
However, I came to get her yesterday from her mothers and she screamed the house down, saying she doesn't want to come with me. So I accepted it and let her stay (probably the worst thing I could have done - as I think she's going to play on that more as she got her way)... I picked her up today and I've just put her to bed and she started crying for her mum, but soon fell to sleep.
What do I do in this situation? I'm lost as to why she doesn't want to come here. Our weekend is full of quality time - parks, swimming baths, walks, drawing/colouring together - the list is endless. We have so much fun together and my weekend is solely dedicated to her.
It maybe just a phase, but I can't see why she'd refuse to go somewhere where she has so much fun.
Has anyone experienced this? I don't want to force her to come here if she doesn't want to but giving up isn't an option either really. Any suggestions?
I really appreciate any help.
Chris
Are you still on amicable terms with your ex? If so, it might be something you can sit down together and see if there is something that you can do to stop this. If you aren't on good terms with your ex, could it be that your ex is telling your daughter stuff to alienate you?
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