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Thank you all for the quick response much appreciated. On Friday I had a call from child maintenance, she has reported me to them although her and I has payment plan in place which I've been honoring every month without fail. They've ask me to stop all payment to her until I hear from them. This simply tells me its no more about the child but rather her warring against me.
In this case should I wait for the first payment via child maintenance to go through before applying for mediation or I can go ahead and do it straight away? She has granted me a personal supervised visit for next week Saturday for 2 hours at her parents house.
Yes, start the mediation and court proceedings right away. Dont let it drag out. I am sure you can show bank statements to prove you have been making payments to her, so I wouldnt worry about that too much.
Once again thank you all for all your support. Child maintenance has now done their calculations and notified me of the amount I should be paying her, but now she's back demanding for childcare contribution. I contacted child maintenance, I was told as per my gross annual earnings they've made their calculation; everything is included. However, if I want to make any more contribution towards the child's care cost it will be purely voluntary.
This woman is convinced I should be paying her extra money for childcare, now she's been to see her solicitor to take me to court for more money. Do I have to have to pay her extra money for child care? Can a Judge order me to pay her childcare cost? Mind you with the amount I will be paying her for childcare I will be struggling as it is. Unfortunately because of how much she earns, she does not qualify for any government childcare support for 2 yr old which is normally 15 hours a week.
hi dasman,
only pay what CMS have told you to pay. if you want to pay optional money on top, thats up to you. she may be bluffing about taking you to court for more money. even if you do go to court, you can go and defend your position. there is a chance the judge could order you to pay extra. don't give in right now.
how do you feel about only seeing your child for 2 hours on a saturday?
Hi Bill337,
Thanks for the quick response, I would rather see him for much longer without her watching us all the time and possibly take him round mine for the night. I've only seen him once since the last month. She refuses to let me see him unless I agree to make payment to her for childcare.
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