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hello hope you are all ok im new on here and my names andrew and im expecting my 2nd babe and im pooing myself and finding it hard im the onley one out off my frends to have a kid so need some dads to talk to reali i have a 3 year old boy called ryan and naw my girlfrend is 10 weeks with my 2nd and shes finding it hard wich is makeing me stress out and find fings hard and dont no haw to cope so if anyone has got any wisdom thay are willing to share i will be so gratfal
thank you andrew
Hi Andrew and welcome
It's been a long time since I was a new father, so hopefully others will help you here. It's also worth reading some of the blogs on here as there should be plenty to help you along.
Hi Andrew :).... Congratulations!
The first 12-16 weeks in a pregnancy can be difficult, what with morning sickness and raging hormones! But hopefully once you get the first trimester over things should soon settle.
Just be there for your girlfriend and try and lighten her load, extra help with Ryan and the chores! If she's moody or irritable then try and understand that her body is going through lots of changes and she is adjusting to the news of a baby just as you are. It might help to talk about how you're feeling and let her know how much you care and are there for her.
It might be nice to bring her flowers or other little treats that will make her smile! 🙂
Hi and welcome Andrew,
I am also currently about the same way along with my second child (now 13 weeks) and I know how you feel. Everything is exciting but scary all at once, especially for us as the wife has had a couple of miscarriages since our first child who is now 4.
We are away for the 12 weeks scan this morning and I have to say I could not be more excited! It's like Christmas for me because I am confident that although we've had issues before this one will stick! Unfortunately, much like yourself, my wife is more stressed about it and scared that we will show up today and find a problem. One thing I have to say is that if you show how much this all means to you then she will find it easier knowing that she has someone to go through all this with. My wife struggles with the fact that she has very few real friends and so feels alone even though I'm by her side. But I just make sure I am always there for her even when my brain won't shut down until 2:30am like it didn't last night!
Money can also be a stress, I know it is for us, but just remember that charity can come out of the weirdest places and there is no shame in taking it when it comes to baby stuff. We bought a brand new travel system for Oliver (my 4 year old) and it was all well and good but I'm struggling to justify the same for my second child. Not because I love them any less but because I'm wiser now to actually how much you really use a carrycot and stuff like that!
I agree with Nannyjane with regards to showing care towards your other half and think that once she is into the second trimester where everything feels a little more real then all will be well for you.
I really hope that everything works out well for you!
Thom
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