[Solved] For happy children - Put your partner first

I just read the news article in the Dad Talk list of news articles:
http://www.dadtalk.co.uk/news/for_happy_children.php
After digging around I found the article on a few other websites and one had this extra bit which I thought was interesting...

David Code's thesis is blindingly obvious. But it needs re-stating.
We have created a culture where the happiness of children is paramount. This is enshrined in children's rights - a peculiar concept for people who rarely have responsibilites.
That culture of entitlement makes parents feel they are letting their kids down if they don't join the parental arms race.
Too many parents derive too much of their self-esteem from the accomplishments of their children. In this Kirsty Young, who has lambasted pushy-parents lately, is bang on.
Kids need stability and tough love. They feed off the prevailing culture within a home. If that culture is loving and affectionate, the kids will follow suit. If it is violent and abusive, ditto.
But this assumes there is a culture of any stamp. For many kids, parents are too busy at work paying for an unsustainable mortgage and tax burden, to create any kind of home-life, good or bad.

Any thoughts???
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