[Solved] Child arrangement order

Yer I found that one out the hard way

So last night out the blue the ex calls me up offers me to be at birth and have pretty much unlimited access eventually leading to 50/50 contact

But I cant help but feel this is a trap I cant escape from the whole pregnancy shes refused my access and rights. Now socail are involved and I've got solicitors involved she suddenly has a massive change of heart and backs down on everything she ever said to me. Now shes over 2hours away from me making contact very difficult and costly I fear if I go I'm going to basically be strung along until she is free of socail then cut from my childs life not being able to afford courts. It all smells a bit fishy to me but I feel it's a no win situation if I go I become emotionally compromised so if she does pull the plug down the line I'm left broken. If I dont go it looks bad on me from socail and courts if it inevitably ends up there. What do you guys think?

Mate, what happened to your ex other kids and how old are they?

Text her and if she calls you in than go, this will cover you she invited you and you are not stalking her. Hospital is a public place with cameras, just be on your best behaviour. I always believe in dialogue as there is no other ways for guys. SS are disgusting, dirty and lying creatures, they will always cause issues and [censored] stir. They will not be happy with this and try to create more trouble. You have to fill in your ex that you are working in her and the child interest and it is SS who are playing games.

Good luck

Her first born was taken away and adopted
Second born has been on protection order since birth now 19m and shes now not aloud to be alone with him
3rd born due on 29th (mine) socail are determined to keep baby with mother despite recent and past abuse

I dont feel as though I can go I'd be playing i to her hands she has something planned unsure what but to suddenly backtrack after months of defiant denial of access now I'm suddenly aloud unlimited access like [censored]
Issue is if I go she wins whatever game shes playing if I dont go socail look bad on me for it
But shes now miles away and expects me to be able to drop everything and just go unfortunately I cant do I'm aware it's my childs birth and I should be jumping for joy at the prospect of being allowed back in but shes to smart to just give in like this and I cant trust a word she says I have to be so careful due to socail being involved I wrongly assumed they were on my side as they had stated then I read the report basically calling her a useless mother yet still they protect her

hi,

you should just focus on the child. after all you just want to see the child. its a difficult situation. since my breakup, i received all kinds of stupid advice from people close to me. like if ex is going to make life difficult for me and make me go to court (££££)to see kids, then i shouldnt bother see kids. or because she ran off, dont see the kids, and let her feel the pain and hardship of raising kids on her own. none of this stuff is in interests of children. also you would not want that child to grow up and think you didn't give a [censored] and never saw him/her. ex didnt want me present at birth or to even go there later to hospital. if i were you i would make the effort to be with the child.

Hi I am focusing on child but it's not as simple as that the distance makes things near impossible for me to do anything. I have to juggle work and my son throw a 2 hour drive each way couple that with mega fuel costs and I'm officaly screwed. Shes already playing games so there's no telling she wont lie to me about date time etc or just not turn up. I'm not in a position to be able to throw money at this unfortunately and I have s tonne of evidence to prove to my daughter I did my best should this all go south. But ultimately this is socails fault they intervene but do a half assed job about it. Spoke to them loads and they were insistent this was going to court were they would be on my side and baby would be coming with me everyone I spoke to in socail agrees with that but they then made the choice to go down the safe guarding route witch if this was a first intervention on their behalf I could understand the need to educate the mother give her the opportunity to change but this is now child number 3
One child has already been adopted the second she has to be monitored at all times with him and the third is now nearly here and they still wont action this
So that leaves me in a position I never envisaged I cant go to court to expensive. I cant do the contact arrangement she wants it effects my son to much and will place a huge strain on my finances. I have to consider what I want but also what's best for the kids and ultimately being passed from pillar to post and stuck between her mother who refuses not to argue and socail forcing their one and only parenting style on her the poor kid is going to wind up traumatised 2and child is already suffering from this. I tried to make a complaint against socails course of action only to be told I wasnt allowed to complain and my best option is to play koi and just wait for her to hang herself then step in and take over wrong the very people charged with ensuring the safety of kids at risk want to effectively wait and see