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Hi all
After some advice I'm currently expecting my daughter at the end of the month. Her mother however isn't playing ball with me. I had social service phone me up saying she was now being placed on child protection from the moment shes born owing to physical and emotional abuse caused by my ex to her oldest (not mine). My issue is social dont seem to be pushing down the court option like I want they are more leaning on basically sticking her on protection plan and keeping a eye on things. Now bit of background my ex lost her first born to social 9 years ago for the same reason and has been under child protection with her oldest last year only coming off in August this year to be but back on it now. Has anyone been through anything like this and taken it to court to get the child removed from mother over child protection issues? Social seem to be pushing me to get parental responsibility order asap and the initial report I've been read gives a very daming view of the ex. I've been told the courts are in a bit of a dads rights phase atm and things have started to look more favorable for fathers was told this by social referencing several cases they recently attended. My way of thinking is how can a court side with a mother who has child protection issues over a farther who already has 50/50 custody of other child and zero social background or concern anyone who's been through this or similar any comments would be most welcome this is currently ripping me apart
Thanks
hi pete,
if your ex will not allow you to see your child, then you dont have any other option other can go to court. i think you should take advice from social services, sounds like its all in your favour. i dont know how this child protection issue works. but if baby was given to you, how would you deal with situation, would you have to give up your job? i think you should stay in regular contact with socials and try find out how this can all work for you.
Thanks for the reply
I'm confused by the whole social thing they clearly dont trust her with her oldest let alone a newborn the report they read me over the phone is crystal clear they have excepted emotional and physical abuse has happened/happening. However they seem hesitant to do any real action other than placing kids names on the at risk register and issuing her with a social protection plan. One minute her social worker is basically pushing me to get parental responsibility asap and asking how I'd cope with newborn etc the next she seems to be backtracking. Every ounce of legal advice I get says I cant do anything until baby is born but also state the fact she will be on the at risk register allows me to bypass meditation phase and get a 48 fast track court hearing. Solicitor seems to think given the current fathers movement happening in court and child protection issues I stand a very high chance of getting a immediate emergency protection order. I feel as though I'm almost being used by social as a means for them to take a backseat and use me as the driver to remove the baby they state they dont think they can get it to court under their current criteria required but if I go to court they will back me in getting her removed. To me that smells like a money thing as if i raise it in court i pay but if they raise it i get to tag onto the case for free. This is a huge mess that's causing me no end of grief all I want is to take my little girl when shes born and ensure she never has to subject to any of this. I find it hard to believe they can agree abuse is present and high risk yet they wont really do much about it especially with baby as she has a home to come to the second shes born where she wont be at any risk surely common sense should prevail in this situation?
Hi Pete,
Social Services are the court [censored] and they will get you do the dirty work. They never resolve any thing and the child custody cases in this country is way of making money. Best to sort it out with the mother however dont expect any favours from the court either.
Thanks for the reply
I cant sort this with the mother as social have stepped in on her so anything I now wish to do has to go through them annoying part is they have already agreed I'm the far better option for my daughter but because shes the mother they hesitate to remove her. To me that's like saying it's ok for baby to suffer as long as its caused by her mother. I did manage to speak to a very helpful solicitor (ex social worker) and she was very confident she could get me full custody but I'd have to play nasty and completely block the ex from ever seeing her etc but I dont want to have to play nasty I just want to be able to safe guard my girl in a environment and situation I have full control over at all times
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