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My ex wife doesn't as yet allow me access to my children, I have remarried and we are going through the courts for access. Its my son's birthday in a few weeks and we are keen to send him a card from the both of us. My wife is concerned though as there is an ongoing court case that this may have some impact on the result as it could be seen as harrasment. I want to send a card so that my son knows that I still care, even though I know my ex will put it straight in the bin.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Hi There,
One thing many dads do when they aren't able to see their children is to write cards and buy presents and keep them for when they can see them and then give them then, I know it's not the best but if your ex will throw the card away without your son seeing it he won't know it's been sent anyway.
GTTS
Like actd said photo copy the cards or just keep them in a box for your child, I find it helpful writing to my daughter my mum does too so when she's older she can read all about how much I've been there for her.
I've kept everything in my Daughters box I've got a little court bundle specially for her lol
Slim 🙂
We were thinking of sending the card through ones that send it for you as I know if we hand wrote it it wouldn't even get opened and you do get proof that you sent it which will go with all the other bits for post court. I don't buy present but we have a bank account set up and put money in it for birthdays christmas etc as I'm sure that he won't want little kids toys when he's older and we/ he can use it to get something he wants. Strange how my ex never turns down any maitenance money though, but I am getting a bit cynical the longer things go on.