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I have recently found out that my five year old daughter (with my ex partner) is not biologically mine.
My ex partner does not know that I had a test done. I am not 100% sure if she has known this all along.
I am planning on telling my ex partner what I have found out but am scared as I don't want anything to change between my daughter and I.
I want to keep seeing my daughter as I normally do and I have a court order in place at the moment,so have regular days every week where I have her to stay over.
I am on the birth certificate but I want to know what rights I have now. I don't want to loose my daughter.
The obvious question is what exactly do you hope to gain by telling your ex that you know? If you don't want to upset the situation as it is at present, then you could somply say nothing and continue as you have been.
Because it will have to happen eventually, I will have to tell my daughter eventually and I hope that it will be better to get it out in the open now rather then later.
Hi there,
I think i can understand why you want this out in babe open as it must be hard knowing it in the first place.
Thing is that if it all comes out then it is going go cause major issues. I don't know what the legal standing is but I don't think you would much in the way of rights to continue seeing your daughter.
I guess there is a further issue here and that's the fact that there is a man out there somewhere who doesn't know he has a child.
I think you could do with confirming what rights you have by seeing a solicitor before you do anything.
GTTS
Hi
Can I ask what DNA test you got as I think I am in the same place
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