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As far as the family court are concerned, finances and contact are two entirely separate issues and one cannot rely upon the other. If she starts to use this as a reason in court , I think she may get short shrift... I would hope so.
Do you pay maintenance as an informal arrangement, or through the CSA/CMS?
My only concern is that your children are expressing the wish not to see you, they will be listened to, it’s not easy to prove PA, or even get it recognised in some courts..
It’s down to the judge on the day unfortunately, but what I would say is that they are getting better at acknowledging it... slowly.
Best of luck
Thanks Mojo...
I now pay through a CMS calculation, which came about in March.
I have a date set for Mediation now, which they have said will be shuttle mediation. I dont know if that's because i discussed the PA in my assessment or if it is because she has accused me of being aggressive or something.
Either way my concern is this is going to slow ot down and i cant see how it will work
Hi there
She may have expressed the wish not to be in the same room with you, it wouldn’t necessarily mean she has made allegations of aggression... I wouldn’t worry about it.
It shouldn’t slow the process down, the mediator will be able to judge fairly quickly whether there will be any consensus between you, if it becomes apparent that agreement can’t be reached, they will sign off the form... you can at any time say that you’re too far apart and want to make a court application.
All the best
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