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I'm divorced and living alone with my 16 year old daughter. She has rather good grades so I'm pretty proud of her. Lately she dicovered a new "passion" thanks to one of her friends. She calls it modeling but it's basically brands sending clothes to them, they have to take pictures wearing them and if they like it they get paid for a professional photoshoot. I feel that since she started her grades are slightly going down and her "modeling" is obviously not a real job. I might be overreacting I don't know.. So here's my question to all single dads with a teenage daughter. Is there a good way to forbid her from doing her "passion" without sounding like a dictator ?
I think you need to come to an agreement with her rather than come down heavy handed, otherwise it might go badly wrong.
As a matter of interest, my daughter is in some sort of marketing, and she gets items from companies (all sorts of things, clothes, food etc) which she writes about on her blog - it is an extra on her job . I think this is more acceptable these days, depends on what sort of career she is after.
She wants to become an engeneer. And I feel like she might be loosing her time with her new hobbie.
Am I overeacting ? She still has good grades but not as good as she used to have.
I think forbidding her would be wrong, we live in a tech age where hmany have jobs and interests that they earn an income from.
If you feel her grades are suffering then talk to her about it and perhaps lay down some parameters; if you make it clear that you are happy for her passion to continue as long as her grades don't suffer, it's her responsibility to make sure that doesn't happen. Tell her you support her fully but right now her grades are important for her future and must be her priority. Make her feel supported to get the best out of her.
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