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Not sure if i have posted this in the right place but i'll ask it anway.
How do you feel, as a man, when it comes to changing your daughters nappy.
personally i feel very self-concious when i am doing it. This is because there are so many stories in the news about people abusing young children i feel i have to be very concious about how im changing my daughter in case the wrong thing gets said to the wrong person and it escalates out of control.
i personally think its sad that the world has made me feel like this
Moved the thread over to here mate.
Do you really feel self conscious ?
i really do, i feel i have to be very careful
for example i worry someone might see me wiping my daughters tushy (for want of a better word) and think i am interfering with her, it makes me feel a little uncomfortable
I agree it's sad, but I've never heard of what you fear happening.
Especially if you go do the nappy thing in another room, there's no reason to fear malicious rumours spreading.
It's unfortunate that dads can't just be dads. We have to worry about others judging us, our decisions, and our parenting techniques. Here are some tips that may help you feel more comfortable.
1) Use correct terminology like [censored] and [censored] with your daughter...even at a young age. This will help your daughter communicate clearly if something ever does happen that she's uncomfortable with.
2) Talk with your daughter about who is allowed to touch her and where they are allowed to touch her. "If it's an area covered by your bathing suit, the only people allowed to touch you there are..."
3) Communicate these fears with other adult friends. This way folks will know your stance on the topic and you will find support.
4) Stay above board. Announce when you're going to do a diaper change. Leave the door open. Carry on a conversation with someone in another room or even call someone on the phone during the process. This will provide you with accountability.
The fact that you're concerned shows that you're a great dad. You want your daughter to know the line and for that line not to be crossed. Just be clear with her and others what that line is and keep yourself above reproach.
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