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Rather than posting in the Legal section this is more a rant and so I’m not really sure where it belongs…if in the wrong area Mods then let me know.
Anyway, just had an email from her solicitor saying that she is no longer representing my ex and that she is now going to represent herself for the rest of the proceedings ….. I am beginning to think that my ex has a split personality disorder to go with her “Benign Intercrainial Hypertension†that she claims (has a doctors letter in the court bundle to prove it) has come on over the last 1 1/2yrs since I threatened and then started legal proceedings….i actually suspected she had some sort of brain disorder when I was with her…it certainly explains her irrational behaviour for 3-4years!
Well her representing herself seems a bit of step backward for me now in my mind! Up until now she has been claiming legal aid and I think that since she married her new fella (of less than a year) on 20th Dec I’m guessing that she no longer qualifies for legal aid….that or that she doesn’t like the advice of her solicitor - telling her she is wrong and out of order with what she is doing! – She ditched one solicitor early last year for telling her she had to be more reasonable!
Anyway, 3rd Feb is the final contact hearing, I represented myself very well at the finding of fact hearing and proved her deceitful and a liar by her own admission under oath to the Judge! So I’m not worried about being able to present the truth and facts as they are clear to anyone….i’m worried that my ex is now going to use this as yet another delaying tactic.
So much for the stress level dropping a little in 2012…..at least I know that the Judge who threw out her lies and was very harsh on her for her deceit is going to be the one residing over this last hearing.
I’m not that stupid that I think this will be the last time I’ll be in court with my ex…..i know the judge said that this is the final and contested hearing, and that what is set out on the 3rd will be a defined contact order…..i just know that my ex will just keep on causing problems.
If by any chance she has an ounce of decency left in her she’ll not….but I doubt that.
The ex’s track record……met me…and within 6 months wanted to get married….we got engaged after 6months….once engaged she wanted a child and a nice house…..we got the nice house within 2yrs and was pregnant.
I walked out within 3yrs of that due to her being totally unreasonable and having her mental issues.
I should’ve gone with my gut feeling instead of my heart at the time (love is truly blind)
for 10 months of 2010 she “allowed†me on her terms contact with my little boy….but kept causing problems and arguments about once a month (come to your own conclusion on that one PMT)….
i finally had enough and took legal action for contact order in Oct 2010 to stop her and prevent her from using my little boy as a weapon…..that back fired big time on me!
I honestly thought she’d pack it in once she saw how wrong she was and that by law my little boy has a right not to be messed around by her and has a right to see me.
However all these things fall into place a little when you read other guys stories and see so many similarities…..i split from my ex Dec 2009, she has within the last year met and now married (Dec 2011) a poor sucker of a guy who she allows more time with my little boy than me his father!! [censored] is wrong with this woman!!! ……looking back at the events I’m fairly certain that she has known this guy for less than a year as that is around Jan/Feb 2011 when she really started preventing me seeing my little boy even though the authorities and legal people said she shouldn’t do that and there was no reason for contact to stop and that it was detrimental to my little boy’s bond with me.
A year and 2 months later am I nearing the end of the fight? Thought I was but I’m not so sure now….A defined contact order should be given on 3rd Feb now that I’ve proven her a deceitful liar in court. that was the words of the Judge, its not a matter of if…but how its going to be enforced is my biggest worry.
I think you have it right that enforcement is going to be your biggest problem.
The fact that she's representing herself I think is good news for your case - I'd be pretty certain that she's sacking solicitors because she doesn't like what they are telling her (mine did the same) so she's likely to dig herself into a lot of holes, that's going to make your case much stronger. I'd be inclined to go for as much contact as you want - the more of a mess she makes of her own case by being unreasonable, the more likely a judge is to agree with your requests if you are reasonable.
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