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I have two court orders out against me regarding my children. One being an alcohol ban (of which I understand its not good to drink in front of children but a complete ban seems unnecessary) and the other, much more importantly is the ban on my partner (now ex due to all this) seeing my children during my contact. I have spoken to my ex wife to see if she would remove these orders as they are no longer relevant. However despite some recent improvements in communication between her and I she is still adamant that these conditions shall remain. This is a disgrace I still have to abide by these rules still. The agreement was a temporary measure to allow the initial weekend contact to settle into an established routine. My partner carries no risk to my and I feel it is an insult to her and the justice system that she remains court bound not to see my children, even if my partner is just a friend of mine these days. My Partner has just been approved as a foster carer so aging it makes a mockery of the whole social system that someone is okay to foster children but is deemed a risk to my own children. This has to stop, immediately I will do whatever has to be done to remove this crazy ruling. As for the alcohol order. There has been no issue with alcohol abuse on my part since the order was issued so again this must be removed. Can anyone offer any support and advice on this subject I am desperate to have these conditions removed to get on with my life once and for all.
Hi there
I've never heard of a complete alcohol ban before, usually it's written into an order that no alcohol to be consumed 24hours before contact takes place, or during contact...was this alcohol ban written into a contact order? As far as the situation with your partner, this seems very extreme also.
If these stipulations were written into a contact order then you could apply for a variation of the order, depending on how long the order has been in place.
It might be useful to get some advice from a solicitor, many of them offer a free initial consultation.
I can't see how they can place an alcohol ban on you!
It's not illegal to possess or consume alcohol in your own home so I'd get legal advise
Sounds like you have your local family court making up their own rules!
Family Courts do seem to be a law unto themselves........
My ex had the 24hour before contact ban, but not a permanent ban. What do they class as alcohol - glass of wine? Rum truffle? Mouthwash? It's simply unenforceable and completely unreasonable, IMO.
Why did they ban access for your partner? They cannot have just written it of their own volition. The court needs to have provided reasons.
The OP has been banned so will be unable to answer your questions Strongmandad.
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